Showing posts with label Texas. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Texas. Show all posts

Friday, July 3, 2015

Hollywood

Behind the BarsThe Hollywood

Location: 304 West 4th Street, Austin, Texas, USA (later 113 San Jacinto)

Opened/Closed: 1980s through 90s

Hollywood is mentioned in an Austin Chronicle article on lost gay and lesbian bars.

The first gay bar I went to was in Dallas. I didn't drink or smoke. I was real naive. I was like, "What is this scene ...?" But they played ABBA, and I was like: "Cool! I like Abba! OK!" It was real confusing. I was more into seeing shows. I went to clubs like Club Foot. There was kind of a crossover. Androgyny was being played with a lot at that time. "Oh he's the straightest guy there is, but he likes to look like Eno!" There were all these weird crossed signals, and then if you went to a gay bar, everybody looked totally like John Travolta. We liked going to the Hollywood because they played soul. We thought, "This is pretty cool." We'd go there on the way to the Ritz to have a couple of drinks before a show. My friend was so confused. He'd get frustrated. He would be like, "Oh, that guy is sooo cute, and I was like, "That's a girl." – Dan Plunkett, owner of End of an Ear Records

I hated the Hollywood. The thing about the Hollywood, that was a place where there was gonna be fights. It was in 1984. I did Deborah Hay's big group dance thing, and there was this one movement, and I'm on the dance floor, doing my dance. Whatever. We were doing some crazy dances; I hung out with dancers. And this girl kicked me in the head! 'Cause, granted, I had this move where my head was down, but I was like, "Did you just kick me in the head?" And she said, "Yup." And I said, "Well, why?" And she said, "'Cause you're dancing funny," in a really defiant way, and I remember going out into the parking lot and crying. Crying my eyes out. You know what? Many people will tell you about a gay bar where the end of the story is "I was in the parking lot crying!" I never went back to the Hollywood. – Gretchen Phillips

Crying is not the worst thing that ever happened in the Hollywood parking lot. A lesbian was shot to death here in March 1980. Unfortunately, the most comprehensive reference I can find to the incident consists of two sentences at Gay History Wiki:

Carol Oetting was killed by a single shot to the head as she was parking her car at “The Hollywood”, a lesbian bar in Austin, Texas. Police reported that they had discovered no suspect or motive.

Not surprisingly, the murder does NOT show up on any LGBT lists of hate crimes that I can find, even though it took place in the parking lot of a lesbian bar. Unfortunately, this kind of erasure is not uncommon when it comes to the murder of lesbians.


Sunday, May 10, 2015

Kicked Back

The old Kicked Back
Kicked Back
 
Location: 521 Southeast 10th Avenue, Amarillo, Texas, USA

Opened: At least as early as 2009--as it is mentioned as an "also ran" for the "Best Gay and Lesbian Bar" award for that year

Closed: July 2013

Kicked Back was a lesbian bar that went straight---in a rather chilling way.

The old Kick Back

Here's what Clubfly had to say about the former Kicked Back:

Type: Lesbian Bar
In a nutshell: Under new management and no longer gay. Was "Girl bar with open mic, pool, cheap drink specials nightly and a live DJ. Happy hour every day 5pm - 7pm"...

 

The newly straight and
"conservative" Kicked Back
with pornified ad (2014)
Yelp fills us in on the subsequent history, after Kicked Back was closed and turned into Kicked Back Ultra Lounge and Shot Bar:

Specialties

Shots are what we do. It's in our name. Let us create mixed shots and specialty drinks you won't find in the Amarillo area, while providing you with awesome customer service. Also, don't forget our pool tables and wooden dance floor. We look forward to meeting you.        

History

Established in 2013.
           
The business was closed in June of 2013 and put up for sale, and served an alternative lifestyle clientele. The business was later purchased in September 2013. With a new owner, attitude, remodel, and direction, Kicked Back Ultra Lounge and Shot Bar now serves a Conservative clientele in the downtown Amarillo area. With new improvements inside monthly, this bar will be the hottest spot in Amarillo. Listen for us on 93.1 THE BEAT with DJ Element for all upcoming events.

Kind of sends shivers up your back, doesn't it? This is a theme we have seen before, but in this case the language is far more definitive and aggressive.
Kicked Back Ultra Lounge
and Shot Bar after remodeling  (2015)

As we have observed many times before, whenever a bar (or any other entity) serves as a womyn's space--no matter how modestly, no matter how compromised--it is very likely be recolonized by the men with a vengeance.

Very typically it's in a quasi-liberal vibe of going "queer" or "gay." But in this case, even the often veiled language of the takeover is laid bare.

Kicked Back Ultra Lounge and
Shot Bar (2015)
We're unabashedly turning this place from "alternative" (which admittedly is a relatively meaningless descriptor at best in terms of a place being woman-identified) to "conservative," which makes it pretty darn clear that lesbians of any stripe, no matter how down they are with the boys, are not welcome.

This anonymous (male?) customer obviously approves the "conservative" takeover. (And notice how straight men are now defined as "everyone.") From superpages, September 2014:

Amazing bar. It used to be a lesbian bar, but it has been remodeled and new customer base. No longer a gay bar. Its everyone's bar. Building looks great and is clean. The staff is awesome. The drinks, glassware, and layout is amazing. Thank you Kicked Back.

Another thought. I was mentioning this case to my partner and how odd it was that the new owners made a point of advertising that their intended clientele was "conservative." Given that this was a huge change from a lesbian bar, she asked, why did the new owners keep part of the old name? If you were opening up a hamburger place in a former French restaurant, you wouldn't save the old name. That would just be confusing to former and future customers.

So why didn't the owners rename the bar entirely since the place was going from "lesbian" to "conservative"?

Excellent question.

When new owners of a bar, restaurant, or business continue to use the old name, it's because they want to signal to the old customers that they still welcome them, that there is some degree of continuity even if they are making improvements and changes.

But in this case, the new owners seem to be thumbing their noses at the dykes. So is this just a way to taunt the old clientele? To have women show up who didn't know of the ownership change, and just embarrass them? Harass them? Or maybe worse???

Given the stepped up backlash, especially in the south after the same-sex marriage victories, it wouldn't surprise me in the slightest. It also sends the following victory signal loud and clear: Yes, this was your space, ladies, and now we control it. We're not erasing that this was a lesbian bar. Oh, no. On the contrary, we're gleefully celebrating our conquest and stomping all over your space.

Thursday, April 30, 2015

Lips Ultra Lounge

Lips Ultra Lounge
Lips Ultra Lounge (aka M's Lip Lounge, Lip Bar, Lips)

Location: 510 North Stanton Street, El Paso, Texas, USA

Opened/Closed: 2010-2011?

From Clubfly:

Type: Lesbian Club

In a nutshell: El Paso's first lesbian ultra lounge and bar with live music, go-go dancers, happy hour and indoor/outdoor patio...

As is typical at clubfly, they note that the place is closed, but provide no date.

At yelp, the same address is referred to as M's Lip Lounge. There is one "official" customer review from October 2011. Scott W. was none to pleased with the place--and is pretty nastily anti-lesbian to boot: 

A sad excuse for a lesbian/gay bar.

The place looks as if it were painted by a couple of second graders.

They constantly have local bands playing here who are just as bad as their sound equipment (dear God it sounds like cats being raped!)

I always see this place while on my way to The Briar Patch and it always seems to be virtually empty.

So to the lesbians of El Paso, stick to your softball matches and volunteer hours at the local cat shelter....cause this ain't the place to be.


Can't help but wonder about Scott's little simile here. I sure hope he doesn't have a personal familiarity with cat raping, but when it comes to men who make a point of hanging around a lesbian bar, one can never be too sure. At any rate, we see here a great demonstration of the casual ease with which anti-lesbian stereotyping, animal torture, and sexual assault go together in the minds of certain cretinous males. And we want more of these guys in our spaces?

There are also three other "unofficial" reviews, all from 2010 and 2011. Here's a defense of the place by melissa m. (apparently the owner) in November 2011:

All we can say is some people just dont get it but those of you who do we love you.  We're not for everyone and we know that in fact we pride that.  If you dont like it you dont come in and thats that we enjoy the company of those that choose to spend their time with us and you know who you are ;). Lets keep rockin elpaso everyday till the day we die!!!!

An (all male) band called Patmos Vision performed there in July 2010. (I think this may be one of those "local bands" that Scott W. so vividly referred to.) Here's a short video if you're interested. That an ostensibly lesbian bar was granting this all-dude band a performance space already tells me we have a mission problem. Are all the lesbian musicians out there fully booked with big dollar contracts with the major record companies? If so, somebody forgot to tell me.

There's a Facebook page for a bar called Lips Bar at this location. One of the last postings is dated August 2014, and it's for...a drag queen show. Since drag queen shows are generally not a part of lesbian culture per se, I'm thinking that Lips is a substantially different place from Lips Ultra Lounge. Once again, it appears we have yet another case of a lesbian bar that was basically taken over by self-identified queers, gay men, drag queens, and/or trans women--probably sometime after 2011.

Monday, March 23, 2015

Acme Bar

BYMR 02
Acme Bar, San Antonio, Texas
Acme Bar

Location: San Antonio, Texas, USA

Opened/Closed: c. 1961

I found out about the Acme Bar in an interview with Marie Cartier, who published a book called Baby, You Are My Religion: Women, Gay Bars, and Theology Before Stonewall. The photo (right) is also from that article.

Unfortunately, the interview says very little about the Acme, other than it was a lesbian bar. We're told that one of the women in the photo was named Carolyn Weathers, though it is not specified which one. Nor is there much explanation, at least in the interview, as to why the Acme was featured on the cover of the book or why the Acme has any particular significance, if any.

Tried googling, and came up with this first-person account called Nuevo Laredo,1961. Notice that in this story, the Acme Bar is referred to as a "gay bar." Nevertheless, it is a very lesbian-focused story. I have reproduced three paragraphs of it here, but I urge you to read it in its entirety.
My sister, Brenda, was lovers with Anita Ornelas.  Today, we would say partners, but in 1961 it was lovers.  Anita was a WAC at Ft. Sam Houston, and when she wasn’t at the barracks or the beery WAC Shack, lived with Brenda at her apartment on Army Boulevard. Terry and I had seat-of-the-pants jobs, and we were kind of seeing each other.
"She's sweet, just like you, Carolyn," Brenda and Anita would tell me, "good for you", trying to propel me away from the paregoric-snorting Adrienne, whom I was also attracted to, like a moth to bad flames.  Not just Adrienne.  The paregoric.
On Friday nights in San Antonio, all the gay people in town partied at the Acme Bar.  Saturday mornings everyone came over to Brenda and Anita's for Bloody Marys, hashbrowns, bacon and eggs, menudo laced with Brenda and Anita's homemade killer hot sauce, and gallons of coffee so strong it could march over and jump into your cup.


Tuesday, September 30, 2014

Eden Lounge

Eden Lounge
Eden Lounge

Location: 2911 Main Street, Dallas, Texas, USA

Opened: January 2013

Closed: April 2014

Like all new business owners, the mothers of Eden Lounge had great hopes for their new venture. Here's the "birth announcement" from dallasvoice:

Deep Ellum lesbian bar a ‘land of Eden’
Posted on 15 Feb 2013 at 8:45am
 
 AMY PRICE  |  Contributing Writer

Making a mad dash from the front door to the bar and back again, Lauren Nguyen frantically converses with guests and staff as the grand opening of Eden Lounge commences.

Within 20 minutes, the venue turns from solitary vacancy to bustling, standing-room-only Deep Ellum hot spot.

Eden Lounge owners Lauren Nguyen and
Kristi Holman
Not in several years has Deep Ellum had an LGBT bar. The new lesbian bar, Eden Lounge, celebrated its grand opening Saturday, Jan. 26. Alongside Sue Ellen’s, Eden Lounge is only the second lesbian bar in Dallas.

Owner Lauren Nguyen, 43, a home mortgage lender, has transformed the shell of a building into a heavenly oasis.

A far cry from the location’s former occupant, Cantina Dallas, Eden Lounge has been revamped from head to toe. The only thing left over is a custom-welded, cowboy-and-cowgirl-silhouetted railing leading up to the rooftop, which happens to boast one of the coolest views in Deep Ellum.


Eden Lounge interior (February 2013)





Eden Lounge houses two bars, one downstairs and a rooftop bar, but it’s not exactly the dance-club atmosphere of Sue Ellen’s.

Catering mostly to women in their 30s and 40s, Eden Lounge is billed a place to relax and have a friendly conversation.

“I wanted it to be like you’re in your own backyard or living room, and that you could hear yourself talk — that was very important. Very laid back,” Nguyen explained.


Nguyen’s partner, Kristi Holman, is vice president of Sherpa Management Partners and serves as Eden Lounge’s public relations manager.

Not since Jack’s Backyard in Oak Cliff has there been a documented lesbian-owned bar in Dallas.

Nguyen and Holman said they’re aiming to fill the void left by the closure of Jack’s Backyard in June 2011.

“She (Kathy Jack) really paved the way for us, and we thank her for that — for passing on the torch,” Holman said.

Eden Lounge interior (February 2013)
Nguyen said she didn’t want to bring in investors and dug deep into her life savings to open the bar.

“I didn’t want the headache or to lose people’s money,” Nguyen said. “I wanted to take a chance on my own.”

This is not Nguyen’s first business endeavor. She has previously co-owned two Asian restaurants.
She said she didn’t want the hassle of running a full service restaurant alongside a bar, although Eden Lounge still has a non-functional kitchen in the back — grease trap included.

Nguyen said there is an assortment of restaurants all over Deep Ellum, including Maracas Cocina Mexicana, which frequently sends over staff with platters of complimentary quesadillas for Eden Lounge guests.

Since the beginning of their venture, Nguyen and Holman said the Deep Ellum community has been nothing but accommodating and welcoming.

Deep Ellum Foundation President Barry Annino said Eden Lounge brings a new level of diversity to the neighborhood.

“I think we’re looking for a little more quality and diversity — you know — we don’t have a lot of balance. It’s a lot of the same thing. That’s something Eden brings to the table,” Annino said.

It’s not that Deep Ellum is a stranger to LGBT-related businesses. The LGBT-owned Leather Masters is a staple in the area.

Annino said there have also been places like Mark and Larry’s Stuff, the art shop Casa Mexicana and a coffee shop — all of which are now closed.

Customer reviews were mixed--as they nearly always are. From yelp, here is part of  a positive review from February 2014:

Eden Lounge patrons (April 2013)
I always have a great time when I go to Eden Lounge. They have my favorite drinks - Ruby Red vodka and soda and Fireball on the rocks - always a bonus! The rooftop is definitely the highlight of the place...great patio with heat when its cold and sail shades if you are running from the sun. Friendly bar staff...always. Best owners - if you haven't met Kristi and Lauren, introduce yourself next time you are there. A big, heartfelt thank you to both of them for taking the time and putting in an incredible amount of energy and soul into a place created with us in mind!

And from May 2013:

LOVE Eden's Lounge. Fun place, great service all around. Rooftop patio is nice, great for a large group as well as the downstairs inside. The rooftop patio is also dog friendly. They do not serve food, but you can get food from restaurants just across the street.

But very quickly the place emptied out. From September 2013:
Eden Lounge patrons (July 2013)


ugh....so we came here for a friend's birthday!! 1st time here & unless that dj gets better...that was my last time there!!! i hadn't been in this area in years b/c it was always so packed & too many drunken idiots!! i was very surprised to see how much of a ghost town it had become!!!

From January 2014:

Umm, aside from the fact that this place plays shitty top 40's hits from two years ago, it's COMPLETELY EMPTY on a Saturday night. Shit music.... So shitty.

What went wrong? This negative review (reproduced in part) from April 2014 provides some clues:

Well, I was super exited to find out about another chick bar in Dallas. My partner and I go to Sue Ellen's but find the crowd to be too young and too, well, just too, meh...no class at Sue's at all. Sorry, but we like to have fun and drink and talk and dance, but the music at Sue's is too hip hop for us. Also, they can't mix a good drink for nothin'. We usually go and listen to live music, but that gets old after awhile. Most women that go to Sue's have all known each other forever and are not interested in meeting any new people and the young chicks seem to want to fight if you look at them the wrong way.
Two guys at Eden Lounge (February 2013)

Anyway...onto Eden Lounge. We got dressed up and went on a Saturday night (two weeks ago) and after finding parking on the street we went in. The place was much smaller than the pictures I had seen on the website. Kinda of depressing. Pool table up front  some ladies playing pool, a few chicks sitting along the wall and their friends sitting across the way too big "coffee tables"...Music was soooo loud in such a small space you had to yell to be heard. Big screen TV's line the back wall above the banquets and play music videos that went along with the music that the really bad DJ was playing. Sorry, but they had a dude DJ in a chick bar, really?


In a relatively short time, it appears the gay men rushed in to take over the underutilized space and then the lesbians really stopped coming. From there, death was imminent. Again, from dallasvoice:


Eden Lounge closes its doors
Posted on 02 May 2014 at 10:49am
 
You may have noticed events at Eden Lounge missing from this week’s Scene in Dallas Voice.

That’s because the Deep Ellum lesbian bar has closed, according to its website earlier this week.

Lauren Nguyen, who opened the bar last year with her partner, confirmed that the bar is closed and details will be available next week.

Nguyen said she decided to get out of the bar business after the gay community didn’t frequent the bar as much as it did when it first opened. It became more of a mixed bar, and she said women then complained that there weren’t enough lesbians.

“I wanted to get into the business for the gay community, but I didn’t get support from the gay community,” she said.  “They came and they stopped coming.”

Dallas Voice featured the couple’s new venture last year after its grand open in January. It was the only the second lesbian bar in Big D along with Sue Ellen’s and only the second documented lesbian-owned bar.

Tiff Khris Cochran hadn’t heard about the bar being closed yet. Cochran is the founder of the lesbian and women-focused social group The SOLID Network and often planned events at Eden.

“Kristi and Lauren are amazing, and I’m very grateful that they took the chance to open a bar for the LGBT community in Dallas,” she said, adding that she wishes them well in the future. “It saddens me that it didn’t last longer.”

While Cochran said Eden was lesbian-owned and had a large women following, she said the venture offered things for everyone and every audience.

Friday, April 18, 2014

Desert Moon

Cowgirl Barbie (1990)
Desert Moon

Location: Off North Central Expressway (behind La Quinta), Dallas, Texas, USA

Opened/Closed: Early to mid 1990s

Have just a few references to Desert Moon. This June 2013 article in dallasvoice.com on the history of Razzle Dazzle Dallas says the following:

Desert Moon was a lesbian-owned bar off Central Expressway behind the La Quinta north of Fitzhugh.

Razzle Dazzle Fundraiser (1991)
Desert Moon is also listed as a business sponsor for the 1991 Razzle Dazzle, which was a fundraiser for AIDS organizations. The DJ from Desert Moon, Laurie Bednarski, is also mentioned as providing part of the entertainment.

In Through the years: Dallas’ gay culture, we're told that in February 1993 that

Georgia Ragsdale performs at the Desert Moon lesbian bar.

Georgia Ragsdale
Then there are the following memories from lesbian blogger Stormy Stroud:

Before Phoenix, I lived in the Dallas-Ft. Worth area and had another great group of friends that were always together doing everything from having painting parties at someone’s house, taking weekend motorcycle trips, watching movies on a Sunday afternoon, or dancing the weekend away at Desert Moon or Ropers. It never occurred to me other cities didn’t have a “community” like that.

When I was offered a transfer back to Texas, I couldn’t get here fast enough so that I could be in a place where there is actually a LGBT community to get involved in! But, I had to find a way to do so. Things had changed in the 12 years I’d been gone. What do women in the 30+ age range like to do? Where could we go to have a good night out? I felt that Sue’s was more for the youngsters. And, I was saddened to learn that Ropers and Desert Moon were long gone.

At the website for an band called Zwazy, there is the following message from a fan in 2000:
Zrazy

A big "Howdy" from Dallas, TX. Didn't realize y'all had a website- silly me- I tried to search for one 6 years ago and I didn't try again. Well, I'm the person who had to lend y'all my M1 when you played at the Desert Moon in Dallas in Nov 1994. I've moved a couple of times and my autographed CD was locked away in a box forever. I thought I had completely lost it but I found it. So I listened to it last night for the first time in years and I cried! Glad to see you two are still alive and kicking. Can't wait to get my hands on the other 2 albums. I'd love to see y'all back in Dallas, but I know that the only 2- yes 2- lesbian bars here are the worst ones in the country. Perhaps we can get you down here some other time. By-the-way, I sold my M1 (stupid, yes), but I have a Trinity now.

Ah. And here we have the 2009 recollections from a former Desert Moon manager:

Barley House
As Hunter S. said, “When the going gets weird, the weird turn pro”, so I quit Dave and Busters and stepped on up to run my own bar. I found an opportunity to build and run a new local bar from the ground-up. The owners of a small country & western lesbian bar off of Henderson were looking to get into the business of running a local Tavern. Yes, I said, “country & western lesbian bar”. It was called “Desert Moon, it had no windows, and I suspect had never seen a beautiful woman brighten it’s door. Anyway, it was by providence we found each other. I saw an ad for a new bar looking for a bartender, so I drove on down to meet them. After I heard what they were doing to the place, I offered several solutions and ideas on how they could turn the place into a thriving local watering hole, not unlike what The Barley House around the corner was. They liked my attitude (suckers!), and were refreshed by my bright ideas and apparent know-how. I walked out of that interview as their new manager and pseudo-partner with all of the glory and none of the profit. (yet.) I waited tables to stay afloat while I spend 6 days a week painting, planning, and basically remodeling this dank little bar in between the I-75 service road and Henderson. Finally in the early summer of 2006 Vickery Place Tavern was open for business, and I was a full-fledged proprietor of my “own” bar.

As you may have noticed, I have included many photos--but none of Desert Moon, since I can't find any. Especially since I don't have an exact address.

Wednesday, April 16, 2014

Trader Vic's

Trader Vic's
The "other" Trader Vic's in Dallas
Trader Vic's

Location: 3018 Monticello Avenue, Dallas Texas, USA

Opened: 1962

Closed: 1967







According to Through the years: Dallas’ gay culture, Trader Vic's was the State of Texas' first lesbian bar. It was opened in 1962 by Donna Foster, who reportedly died in March 2002.

This was NOT part of the California-based chain of  Polynesian restaurant called Trader Vic's that opened across the U.S. back in the 1960s. In fact, Trader Vic's (the lesbian bar) predated Trader Vic's (the restaurant), which didn't open in Dallas until 1967. (That Trader Vic's was located on Mockingbird and North Central Expressway, and closed in 1989. It then reopened in March 2007 before closing again in 2010.) There was actually a court battle in May 1967 over the Trader Vic's name, which the lesbian bar lost.  Note that the newspaper article (see to the side) does not mention Donna Foster, but states that the owner's name is Ethyl Boyd.

Started the search on these pioneering women. But I quickly figured out that there are too many women named "Donna Foster" for this to be an easy project. Surprisingly, there are lots of women named "Ethyl Boyd" or "Ethel Boyd" as well. Perhaps the most promising candidate is an Ethyl Boyd who (in the 1940 Census) lived on Belmont Street in the City of Dallas. That particular Ethyl would have been in her mid-60s about the time of the lawsuit. But I'm not yet convinced this is the right party.

If anybody has a lead let me know. Otherwise, I'll just keep plowing through ancestry.com and other on-line obituaries and see if they show up.

It looks like the original site for the lesbian Trader Vic's was demolished for road work. And I can find no other photos.

Sort of an aside: It is not unheard of for a lesbian place to lose the right to use its own name. The same thing happened to the Amazon Bookstore Cooperative in Minneapolis (later known after the True Colors Bookstore) after their 10-year fight with He-Who-Must-Not-Be-Named.

Tuesday, April 15, 2014

The Conference Room

Dallas 1960s
The Conference Room

Location: Dallas, Texas, USA

Opened/Closed: 1960s, 1970s

Although "interesting" and "masters thesis" would seem to be a contradiction in terms, this thesis by Karen S. Wisely called "The 'Dallas Way' in the Gayborhood" has some pretty fascinating material.

For our purposes though, I'm going to limit our discussion to a lesbian bar called The Conference Room and the gender segregation/control of space within the so-called LGBT community.

Here's what she says about The Conference Room:

While bars that catered to primarily homosexual patrons were able to exist in Dallas at that time [i.e. the early 1960s], one should not assume that such a practice was widely accepted. Police raids occurred regularly in the Dallas bars, just like in other cities, and the bars dealt with the inevitability of those events. For example, the door person for The Conference Room, a lesbian bar where businesswomen met after work, turned on a red light whenever she saw police or just someone who looked out of place near the bar. When that happened, the patrons inside would stop dancing, move away from each other and the underage crowd would sneak out a bathroom window. Another method of police harassment in gay bars was for the vice squad to conduct sting operations; however, those were more common in the men's bars.

Other lesbian bars that had the flashing red light thing include the Sea Colony in New York and the Canyon Club in Los Angeles.

Wisely also tells us that the gay bars in Dallas were patronized by both gay men and lesbians till the 1970s--though, admittedly, the bars were dominated by gay men. But then the bars became increasingly segregated by sex.

Conference of Secretaries in
Dallas, Texas (June 1959) -
No pants then either
Throckmorton Mining Company - a gay male bar
now closed
When a bar decided that it wanted to focus on serving one particular gender (usually men), it most often issued a restrictive dress policy. In 1979, for example, several bars including the Old Plantation, Throckmorton Mining Company and Magnolia's, prohibited admission to women wearing jeans. This policy was not only discriminatory against all women, but was obviously focused on lesbians - and butch lesbians in particular - who were much more likely than heterosexual women to go out attired in jeans. Dress codes, when applied equally to all customers, were legal and perfectly reasonable; however, the same bars that refused jeans-wearing women allowed men clad in blue jeans with no difficulty whatsoever.

It was also common for sex (and race) segregation to be maintained by demanding extra identification from those deemed undesirable by the bar management.

Wisely's source for this information is largely drawn from her interview with Karen Jack, who has an extensive history working in gay and lesbian bars in Dallas. Jack also experienced anti-lesbian employment policies at the largely male clubs, which were dominated by a single conglomerate.

Kathy Jack, proprietor of Jack's Backyard in Oak Cliff and for the first sixteen years of its existence the manager of Sue Ellen's [a lesbian bar] in Dallas, has worked in gay bars since the early 1980s. She managed a lesbian bar called The Unicorn very successfully for four years. Yet, when The Unicorn closed and she needed a job, she encountered difficulties because she was female. Caven Enterprises, who owned four gay bars, the Old Plantation, Throckmorton Mining Company, J.R.'s and 4001, did not want to hire her. Finally, the general manager took a chance and hired her as a door person for the Old Plantation. Two months later, she was a manager there. Even then, she recalled that on her first day as manager, the staff, made up entirely of men except for a single female bartender, called her "dyke" under their breath every time she walked past. She won them over eventually, but at first, the work environment was somewhat hostile.

Caven Enterprises, Dallas' largest owner of gay bars and clubs, formed in 1969 and has operated numerous nightclubs in the area since then, opened their first lesbian bar, Sue Ellen's, only in January of 1989 after years of lobbying by Kathy Jack. In spite of the many lesbian-focused bars that have thrived over the years in Dallas, no one at Caven thought such a place could succeed. When the Old Plantation changed into the Village Station and began to stay open until four in the morning on weekends for after-hours dancing, a large contingency of lesbians showed up from other bars. Jack never gave up and continued to suggest a women's bar to her bosses at every opportunity. Finally, they relented but delayed more than another whole year before Sue Ellen's opened. Thanks in part to the work of Kathy Jack and others like her, Sue Ellen's thrived and Caven Enterprises' employment practices changed considerably.

Maybe Wisely finds this an inspiring story; I find it maddening. The fact that lesbians spend years groveling before men (gay or straight), begging them to open a facility that will ultimately make money for them off of women--well, that just shows that it isn't just a few insensitive or "sexist" beliefs that need to be changed. It's a whole money/power structure dominated by men.

Follow ups on the some of the other places mentioned:

Other than this reference to the Unicorn, which shows that it was open at least as early as 1984, I haven't found much more about it.

Sue Ellen's is still in business, though it moved to a new location in May 2008.

Jack's Backyard opened on October 31, 2008 and closed on June 26, 2011. We'll have to look at this place in more detail another time.


Friday, April 11, 2014

Lipstick24

Lipstick24
Lipstick24

Location: 606 East 7th Street, Austin, Texas, USA

Opened: October 2010 (Grand Opening December 2010)

Closed: April 2013

Here's how she introduced herself at her website:

Lipstick24 is dedicated to offer the best ladies focused, gay friendly, bar, club and all around great hangout for the entire community. 

We strive to provide a safe, open and supportive space for every female to be expressive and have a great time doing it.  We believe Austin is in desperate need of a place for female artists of all kinds:  musicians, burlesque dancers, fashion designers, belly dancers, fire dancers, roller derby, athletes,
Lipstick24 Grand Opening
December 4, 2010
DJ’s, artists, poets, film directors and more.  We also strongly believe in giving back to the community by hosting fundraisers and donating our space for special events.  We built Lipstick24 to offer something for everyone, whatever your mood.  Check out our calendar for events – we hope you’ll meet new friends, enjoy your time with old friends, see exciting shows and listen to great music.

Lipstick24 (December 2012)
The outside deck with picnic tables, an outdoor stage, trees adorned with tiny white lights; the swanky Lounge with couches and rotating art featuring local female and LGBTQIA artists; the game room to play some pool; and the dance club with a separate bar, amazing light show and kick ass speaker system.

Lipstick24 isn’t trying to be a sparkly image driven bar.  It’s a hangout.  A place with character where girls can be girls, boys can be boys, you can be you.  It’s a bar for all of us..  Come and Enjoy!

And then there's this, the "elevator speech" if you will:

Welcome to Lipstick24
Where Every Night is Ladies Night!

Austins premier ladies club offering a swanky lounge, a tree covered deck with a combination of Live music and DJ's for your dancing pleasure.

As for the review sites, they all affirm that this was a lesbian place--which is not necessarily always the case.
Lipstick24 (December 2012)

From Zagat:

"One of Austin's only lesbian bars", this "comfortable" Downtown hangout features an "all-girl staff" and plays "really loud" dance music; a back patio, pool tables and a stage hosting local LGBT acts supply a variety of distractions.

From Foursquare:

Where it's Ladies Night Every Night! Great patio, lounge, AND Nightclub! Check out the action and what's up on Facebook.com\Lipstick24
Lipstick24 (December 2012)

From GayCities:

Gay Friendly Ladies BarLipstick24 isnt trying to be a sparkly image driven bar. Its a hangout. A place with character where we girls can meet for some drinks or seek mayhem in the next room if we so desire.

From CultureMap Austin:

Lipstick24
Lipstick24 (December 2012)

Austin's downtown lesbian bar with a good dancefloor and friendly staff
From sheseek:
Lipstick 24 is Austin’s mainstay for gay and lesbian women from Thursday to Sunday, often sponsoring fundraisers for community events, showcasing local designers and performers, and even playing host for Real L Word appearances for celesbians such as Whitney Mixter. With all of the glam and none of the attitude, Lipstick 24 touts itself as “A place with character…where you can be you.”
As for what the customers say, it runs the gamut. You have the fans, the haters, the embittered men and their wives/girlfriends who are all pissed because they aren't treated really special at a lesbian bar.
Lipstick24 (December 2012)
 Let's sample a few responses:

The Fans:

Kelly S. at yelp, May 2011:

...I wasn't sure what to expect, having never really been to a lady gay bar. I was pleasantly surprised, actually.

Really nice bartender, super cool funky hair styles everywhere, a pretty big space, pool table, mrs. pacman, nice outdoor patio. Drinks weren't overly expensive and the folks we talked to were all quite friendly. It's nice and new inside with some art on the walls and a white ikea style leather seating area.


Aga N. at yelp, October 2010:

...The bartenders were so nice and quick, and the clientele was super sweet and welcoming.

Tara D. at yelp, June 2011:

Great atmosphere and friendly staff.  I always have a good time here.  Jeanna and Kristen are two of the best bartenders ever!  The management is awesome and extremely supportive of the LGBT community (as a gay bar should be, of course)...and they are always open to suggestions on how to improve the bar.

Ramona at gogobot, November 2013:

Lipstick24 is Austin's preeminent lesbian bar, but the downtown club has become a gathering place for everyone in the local LGBT community. Hang out in the casual outdoor patio, complete with an outdoor stage with weekly live music and entertainment. Lipstick also features a range of female-oriented artists, from roller derby performers and belly dancers to fashion designers and poets.

The Haters:

Gail A. at yelp, January 2013:

We arrived around 11pm on a Friday evening. The place was empty save the bartender, a handful of very unattractive women and a cold, abandoned stripper pole. Maybe I was just there on an off night, but I've experienced much better girl scenes in smaller cities/towns. We stayed for five minutes before abandoning the joint for a much livelier straight bar.

The Whiny Dudes and Straight Girls:

Note that these comments tend to be long-winded in addition to being entitled and generally ignorant of and/or indifferent to the history of male ownership/domination/colonization of lesbian bars. All of these are pruned quite a bit, I assure you:
 
Samantha P. at yelp, January 2011:

...my friend wanted to take me (and the two guys I was with) to Lipstick 24. Cool! I am an Ally, and I love dance bars and supporting local LGBTQ businesses, so I was all about it.
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My friend Patrick waited at the bar for almost 20 minutes. The bartender served EVERYONE but him over and over. I walked up and gestured to the bartender, and she immediately walked up. I was really outraged and angered by it. Why ignore the guy who wants to close his tab, who has bought drinks, and who has enjoyed your bar and wants to come back?


Hael F. at yelp, September 2011:

DO NOT ENTER if you have male genitalia.

I was enticed to visit Lipstick24 when friends invited me there to see Lesbian pudding wrestling. While I'm sure it wasn't vegan pudding and I prefer the gents... I am always down for a couple of ladies throwing down in some Bill Cosby loving pudding. After walking through the door, we stopped at bar to grab drink before partaking in the action.

There were three of us (all gay men) at the bar attempting to order a beer. We waited for nearly 20 minutes for a bartender to even acknowledge us. This staff was completely inept, I've never seen such incompetence with when most of the ladies here were only ordering beers.

After finally, receiving our beers we headed to back patio for some girl-on-girl pudding action but we were too late. While we waited at the front bar, the pudding wrestling had ended. In order to console ourselves we decided to grab a couple more drinks from the outside bar. While this bar was not well stocked, we were greeted by a very gregarious and adorable bartender that was in stark comparison to our earlier experience.

This place was packed but I guess that's to be expected since it's the only lesbian bar in town. Overall, I don't think I'd go back. I understand the infighting between the gays and lesbians but I don't like to be treated like a second class citizen.


Matt H. at yelp, December 2010:

...Talking with my female friends, their guess is that the owner is a manhater.  I don't know if that's the case, and I'm personally not going to assume it is in hopes that it was just sheer incidence that my experience was terrible.  If that is the case though, it seems rather narrow-sighted to skip over someone who considers himself an ally and wholeheartedly supports your lifestyle.

Alethea B. at yelp, October 2011:

I did not realize that it was a common experience for men to be glared at in a Lesbian bar.  Most men who go are going with female friends or are gay themselves.  Not every man who goes to a lesbian bar is trying to be a pervert who will save the gay woman from a life of homosexuality by showing her what a "real man feels like"  (brrrrr).  Anyway, I digress; the reason for that statement is that it is wrong for my husband and I to go to Lipstick 24 and as soon as I go to the bathroom, he gets glared at by so many of the lesbians that it looked like he just offered to impregnate the whole bar in the back seat of his Dodge.

Many sites (e.g. Zagat, yelp, GayCities, Austin360, sacbee) report that Lipstick24 is now closed, but as usual, there is no date. The last scheduled performer I see at songkick is March 2013 though.

But in April 2013, it was announced in The Republiq that Austin was losing its "only lesbian bar." That being Lipstick24.

The space is now the Empire Control Room & Garage--a concert venue. Or possibly Club 606. Not entirely sure which came first.

Wednesday, March 5, 2014

The Usual Neighborhood Pub

The Usual Neighborhood Pub

Location: 5519 Allen Street, Houston, Texas, USA

Opened: 2008

Closed: 2014

The latest victim in the Great Lesbian Bar Die-Off. From culturemap Houston:

Popular lesbian bar closes, but owners vow to reopen in new location





The Usual bar in Houston with crowd in patio


 
 










Trying to find a lesbian bar in Houston seems at times like going on the quest for the holy grail. Chances shut down in late 2010 when owner Nick Vastakis decided to move out of bar management and into property development, and recently The Usual Neighborhood Pub has joined the list. Owners of the bar, located near T.C. Jester and the Katy Freeway, announced its fate on its Facebook page:
We are closing The Usual for good at this location but we are on the hunt for our new spot! We planned on remodeling but our landlord refused to pay for all the roofing and electrical needs (as most of you know was much needed) … we unfortunately had to make the decision to move…we will be absent for a short while but will return soon and can't wait to see all of you! We can't thank everyone enough for being apart of this great bar, all of you have made it what it is and that's something to remember!…keep you posted!”
Last week, regulars gathered with current management and past employees to pay tribute to the bar as it closed. Owners could not be reached for comment.

The Houston Press named the bar to its list of Top 10 Gay Bars, Clubs & Icehouses last summer, citing a great selection of microbrews and Internet jukebox, air hockey, a large patio with picnic benches and dog-friendly environs, and describing the atmosphere as "a little like Cheers with better decor and a better beer selection."

For now, it looks like the only dedicated lesbian bar left is the newly renovated Pearl Bar. Other options include Guava Lamp and JR’s Bar and Grill, which draw a gay clientele but are lesbian-friendly, and newcomer Barbarella, an alternative bar that draws a gay-and-lesbian-friendly crowd.

So what else can we add to the obituary? Well, it was once awarded the Best Lesbian Bar award:

Best Lesbian Bar Houston 2012 - The Usual - CLOSED
The Usual
                  
Since the demise of Lower Westheimer mainstay Chances, the Usual has been Houston's only lesbian bar, so luckily it's a good one. Not exclusively for ladies who love ladies, the Usual sports an inviting front porch with a sweet view of some nearby train tracks, great deals on wine, and frequent raucous karaoke nights. After an evening so close and yet so far from the Usual, in the vast valet-bedeviled douchatoria of the Washington Avenue strip, the Usual's laid-back neighborhood vibe will restore your faith in the human race.
Dancers at The Usual (December 2013)


Here's the piece on The Usual from the Top 10 Gay Bars piece cited above. Notice that there is no mention of this being a lesbian space:

The Usual patrons (December 2013)

Air hockey? Check. Picnic benches? Check. Dog-friendly? Check and double-check. The Usual is a comfortable place for everyone to hang out, no matter what your orientation, a little like Cheers with better decor and a better beer selection. It's casual, gay-friendly, and the Internet jukebox provides endless possibilities. In short, we could live there, especially with the selection of microbrews.

Interesting that My Gay Houston doesn't even mention that this is a lesbian bar either:

After stints operating as a massage parlor, a questionable spa biz and a gambling club, the nondescript, brown building right off of Washington, near TC Jester, was transformed several years ago into a casual, neighborhood bar dubbed The Usual. Set in the Heights, The Usual provides an eclectic, post-college clientele with a casual, no-frills dive to kick back in, listen to music and enjoy a solid beer selection.
Bartender at The Usual (December 2013)

Inside, the interior is small and cozy, with five smaller, sectioned off rooms perfect for lounging and playing a round of darts. There’s also a small stage nearby that plays host to weekly karaoke night performances and a dog-friendly patio space outside with picnic table seating.

While you’re there, try out one of The Usual’s more than 60 types of beer, including hard-to-find varieties and locally-produced craft brews like Southern Star Bombshell Blonde and Saint Arnold’s Elissa IPA.


And then there is this from the Houston Press. The Usual, we are informed, isn't exactly "gay." But it is populated by a fair number of "women who prefer the company of other women":

When you hear that whistle blowin', no need to hang your head and cry, just plug your ears for a second before getting back to drinking on the cheap. The Usual, a neighborhood newcomer next to the railroad track that runs parallel to Washington Avenue, is not a gay bar per se, and it's certainly not a sleazy pick-up spot. It is a welcoming sort of establishment, though, and a good portion of the clientele is comprised of women who prefer the company of other women. The beer-garden tables out front are a great place to drink discounted beer and well drinks during happy hour.

Oh, but this is classic. We haven't come across a naïve-straight-guy-accidentally-stumbles-into-a-lesbian-bar story in a while, and this one is just a perfect example of the genre.

There are some 28 customer reviews at yelp, and they run the gamut. Some are positive, some are not. Some claim the place is friendly to everyone, some say the place is anti-male. Too many to really sample here, but they are always a hoot to scroll through.